Dating Success Checklist For Guys

Guys: are you about to go out for a night on the town and plan on (or hope to) bring someone home with you? If so, there’s a handy checklist you should skim before you go out. It will help to impress the ladies and should become a regular part of your dating routine:

  • Make Your Bed – Be sure to change the sheets and, if necessary, the blankets and bedspread.
  • Clean Your Bathroom – The toilet and the shower, tub and sink should be spotless. Be sure there are plenty of clean towels and don’t forget to make sure there is plenty of toilet paper (remember – women use more than you do!)
  • Stock Your Kitchen With Breakfast Food (the kind you can cook) – Bacon, eggs, toast, coffee and juice are the best choices. Muffins are great, and even yogurt is good. Cold cereal is not the coolest thing to offer a woman who has just spent the night in your home for the first time!
  • Be Prepared With a Light Snack and Something to Drink (both alcoholic and non-alcoholic) – for that evening as well.
  • Prepare Your Answering Machine – Be sure to do one of two things: turn the volume off on the machine and turn the ringer off on the phone, or unplug the phone. If you use an answering machine instead of voice mail anyone in its vicinity can hear the message left when you don’t answer the phone. The last thing you want is for some other woman to be calling and saying something romantic or lascivious, or even worse, some other woman calling you some kind of dog for ditching her while your current date is within earshot!
  • Keep Plenty of Condoms Ready by Your Bed (but out of sight) – You want to be prepared but at the same time not looking too eager
  • Remove All Traces of Any Left Over Items From Other Women – Make
    sure there are no used second toothbrushes, no earrings or even earring backs, no panties or perfume, and no women’s magazines.
  • Clean Your House Top to Bottom – It doesn’t have to be spic and span but dirty clothes should be in the hamper and dirty dishes in the sink – not on the coffee table with the fork stuck to them.
  • Wear Clean Underwear And Socks That Are Free of Holes (as your own mother would tell you)
  • Dim Your Lights Before You Leave For The Evening – If your lights don’t have a dimmer switch and they’re not three way then pick up some 40-60 watt bulbs and replace your current bright lights. You might have some candles ready for the bedroom, but again don’t bring those out right away.

I’m sure you can think of some other things that belong on this list, but these are the most important things to have on your “dating success checklist” before you head out on a date looking for love and romance.

Appearing to be Something You Aren’t

There is a natural tendency for people entering a new relationship to try and make themselves appear to be something more than they believe themselves to be. The thought process behind this is fairly rational, up to a point. The attitude that many people have goes something like the following: “He/she cannot possibly be interested in me for who I am. I’m too boring – I need to appear more interesting.”. Although this is a perfectly common rationale, it misses one key point – he or she clearly is interested. Any pretence is unnecessary. If you want to be more interesting, it needs to be a decision made for you. Only then can you fully commit to it and do it properly.

The problem with artifice and pretence is that they require a lot of work in order to be convincing. Honesty really is the best policy and not only because it is morally the right thing, but also because honesty is the natural thing. Telling the truth relies only on remembering what you have done. Lying relies on remembering what you have said, without the concrete memories to back it up. Sooner or later, you forget what lies you have told and you trip yourself up.

Being honest is rewarded with trust. If you tell a lie and are caught out, you lose a bit of trust, and once that goes it almost never returns. If you are later suspected of having done something of which you are truly innocent, your previous lie will work against your partner believing you. So even if it is only because of how it may come back to haunt you, be honest and be yourself.

Dating a Friend – What To Look Out For

There are many situations where a simple friendship can become something more – having known somebody for a long time you realize how well you get on, and feel an inkling that there is something more there. It is a situation that needs to be treated with some caution, however. There is no doubt that a relationship that begins as simple friendship can go on to be absolutely fantastic. For a start, you know that you have things in common and that you can spend time together. It is easy to convince yourself that it would be even better if you took your friendship to “the next level”. It is important, however, to allow yourself to realize that it doesn’t always work out the way you would have hoped.

Numerous people have begun or tried to begin a relationship based on a close friendship and found that it did not work as they would have hoped. The “spark” between a couple is not always the same as a “spark” between two friends, although there are similarities. It is worth talking things over, honestly and maturely, and seeing if it is what you both really want. The danger when a friendship becomes a relationship, is that the relationship may end for any number of reasons and can put the friendship in jeopardy. Trying to make something great into something even better can leave you with nothing at all.

If you decide to give it a go, then it has certainly been shown that it can work wonderfully. As long as you go into it with your eyes open, it can work that way for you too.

Dating Pitfalls: The case of the ex

When embarking on a dating relationship with someone new, it is important to be aware of the ways that things can go wrong, and to avoid these as far as possible. The unavoidable fact is that many times, a new relationship can follow on the footsteps – for you or for the person you are dating – of a relationship which ended recently. This raises the very difficult question of how to deal with the ex. The end of a relationship invariably generates strong feelings, and it is how these feelings are dealt with that can make or break a new relationship.

For the person who is coming off a broken relationship, the range of possible feelings is extremely variable. It may be that you (or the person you are dating) still have feelings for the ex, especially if it was they that broke it off. The question of whether someone in such a situation should be dating at all is a tough one. It can help in getting over the old relationship, or it can complicate the new one. Additionally, there is the question of bitterness. If a person recently out of a relationship talks in a bitter, even insulting manner about an ex, it will invariably raise the question “Will they talk about me like that if we don’t work?”.

It is important that there is honesty in any relationship. Without it, a relationship will wither and die on the vine. Confront any old feelings before going any further, and you have a chance. Letting them fester will just ruin anything good that you could have.

Dating Can Still Be Fun – Even if You Have Herpes

If you have herpes, dating can seem like a depressing chore. You might start to have strong feelings for someone you’ve been seeing and be afraid that you’ll frighten the away once you tell them you have herpes. And you should prepare yourself for that. Some people will hear that and not give you a fair chance.

As painful as that can be, you shouldn’t let it get you down. For people who have herpes, dating can be more difficult. But there are many ways you can make dating an enjoyable part of your life again. You don’t have to feel like you shouldn’t ask someone out because of the disease.

It’s important for you to realize that you’re not alone. Herpes is a common disease. In fact, about 25% of the population in the United States carries the virus for genital herpes. That’s 1 in four people who carry the disease. Unfortunately, most of them don’t even know they have it.

So you’re not alone, and you’re not the only person to suffer with herpes. Dating can be a challenge, even knowing that. But because so many people do suffer with the disease, there are ways you can meet them. Online sites designed to introduce people who have herpes are available to you – in fact, you can simply visit to check out some of the most popular herpes dating sites.

You don’t have to limit yourself by thinking you must find a mate who has herpes. Dating can continue much as before, if you wish. But websites designed for those with the disease can help take a lot of pressure off you. You won’t have to ‘break it’ to your date that you have herpes, because they have it too and are aware that you do.

Using sites like this can be a great way to get back on the dating scene without having to tell anyone you have herpes. Though it’s important to remember that you shouldn’t be ashamed of having the disease. It’s something that can happen to almost anyone. And you should realize that people with herpes can fall in love, get married, even have a family, just as those without herpes can.

Right now, though, your focus is just on dating and having fun. Try the sites designed for herpes sufferers for some no-pressure fun. You might even find that special person who also has herpes, and you’ll never have to worry about spreading the disease to your partner. But you shouldn’t limit yourself to this type of dating, unless you want to.

There’s no reason you can’t date someone who doesn’t have herpes. In fact, that person is probably less likely to contract the disease from you than from someone else. That’s because you know you have it and you’ll practice safe sex to keep them from getting it. They’re more likely to get it from those 1 in 4 people who have it and don’t know it!

Tell your partner about your herpes before you have any kind of intimate contact. But it’s not necessary to tell them before the first date – once you’ve had a chance to get to know them better and you would like to continue dating them, then you will can find a way to break the news about your herpes.